Have you been thinking, or saying, "I miss my girlfriend"? If so you should know that it is always possible to reconnect with an ex. All you have to do is figure out how to go about it. What to do and what not to do. There are some things you should avoid at all costs if you really want another shot at working things out with your ex.
Obviously I don't know you or what kind of person you are. I don't know how you treated your ex or if the breakup was mostly your fault or hers. But what I do know is that in most cases there are some common reasons that relationships fall apart and knowing the causes, and the cures, can go a long way to making sure you can get back together again.
In most cases people have one or both of these issues in their relationship: a lack of respect for their partner and / or a lack of communication. Figuring out which one you have problems with and finding ways to get over those problems can go a long way to making you a better person and that can go a long way to making your ex want to be with you again.
When people complain about their relationships one of the first things I ask them is: do you still treat and talk to your partner the way you did when you first met? For example, are you polite? When you want something from your partner do you ask them for it and say please or do you 'order' them and neglect to say please or thank you? I'm sometimes appalled at the way I hear couples talk to each other. If you are more polite to the person who gets your coffee than you are to your girlfriend, you have to wonder why. Why would you be more polite to a stranger than to your girlfriend? Kind of weird isn't it?
So, start there. Take a long hard look at the way you talked to and treated your ex. Try to see what areas you can make some improvements in and make them. I'm not saying that you are the only one that needs to make changes, but for now you can only change you. If you and your ex get back together hopefully she'll face her own issues and make whatever changes she needs to make, but for now you worry about you.
Common problem two is that many couples don't know how to talk to each other constructively. They will argue and bicker and feel resentment because their partner doesn't 'get' them but they don't really communicate. Many times we just aren't good at asking for what we want. We somehow expect our partners to just 'know' what we are trying to say. Newsflash, most of us aren't mind readers so if you (and your ex) can't learn how to express yourselves in an easy to understand, non accusatory way you'll never get anywhere. Learn how to politely and respectfully ask for what you want. And encourage your partner to do the same.
For all you guys who are saying "I miss my girlfriend and I want her back" this advice can really help. Not only will it help you become someone she would want to be with, it will also help you become a better man and that is always a good thing.
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